We meet every other week for 90 minutes either in Menlo Park or online in California.
Couples counseling is not about pointing fingers and assigning blame. Our goal is to reconnect you to the person who wants to show up and be fully present in your relationship. Let’s make your relationship a place where you are proud and happy.
You love your partner but liking them is getting harder and harder. You’re exhausted from trying to have the same fights over and over again. And sex, well, you want to want to but you haven’t been interested in longer than you feel comfortable with. In fact, every time they get angry, you pull farther and farther away. You are not interested in planning a trip or giving a gift or even trying sometimes.
You’ve tried giving them the benefit of the doubt. You’ve tried doing everything their way. You’ve tried shoving your feelings down deep and biting your lip to keep the peace.
Coming to couples counseling with me isn’t about taking sides or repeating the same fights. It’s about rediscovering what you love about yourself and about your partner. It’s about rediscovering the passion, the respect, and the love that you dreamed about when you committed to each other.
They might not change. You might be afraid that their totally logical approach will overwhelm me. Both of you might be tired and convinced nothing will help. No matter what, if you want it, if you still love each other, then spending time with each other is never a waste.
Together we start to heal the hurt and the anger and create a safe place to remember the love and fun and comfort that you both had for each other.
Relationships are hard, even harder when you love them. We can help you find the love and passion again.
Couples counseling can help when both partners are willing to slow down, get curious, and look at the patterns between them rather than only the problems in each other. Therapy is not about deciding who is right or wrong. It is a space to better understand what keeps getting repeated, what each person is longing for, and how to communicate with more honesty, care, and clarity. Many couples come in feeling stuck, distant, or caught in the same conflict; our work is to help you find a different way through.
In couples counseling, we look at the relationship as the focus of care. We may explore communication, conflict, emotional distance, trust, intimacy, life transitions, or the places where both people feel unseen or misunderstood. Sessions often include slowing down reactive moments, naming the cycle you get caught in, and practicing new ways of listening and responding. You do not need to have everything figured out before you begin. We will start with what is happening now and move at a pace that feels thoughtful and useful.
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